Long until dating becomes relationship
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But as a baseline, Ian Kerner, Ph D, LMFT, licensed psychotherapist, couple's therapist and author of "I've worked with a lot of couples who have strong relationships, and they met and fell in love quickly and really got to know each other's friends and family," Kerner says.
I did some digging and reached out to relationship therapists and psychologists to get their thoughts.
Here's what the professionals have to say about the ideal length of time to date.
If you feel weird about the situation, if you’re no longer comfy in the ambiguity, speak your mind. Be prepared for the “wrong answer,” but then you’re free to move on — Beyoncé, should you take this or should I? My friend Monty said, “It’s been five years since I’ve been in a relationship. ”Another friend, Casey, offered a bit of insight: “We can feel backed into a corner when you bring up ‘the talk,’ like we’re being accused of something and about to get in trouble.” He suggested trying to figure out where the guy’s mind is headed instead.
“Ask him questions about where he sees himself in a few years.